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My Summer Away: What We Did

People!!!!!

I have missed you. After a summer away from the blog, it’s hard to even know where to start with you. So let’s just pretend we’ve run into each other at Trader Joe’s and we haven’t seen each other for three months.

 

You: Micha, hey! How are you? How was your summer?

Micha: Well. It was good. I mean. It was complicated but also really restful. I mean. It was hard but also very sweet.

You: Oh, is this going to be a fun conversation or an awkwardly deep conversation in the middle of the snack food aisle?

 

Okay. You’re right. That’s a little too deep for the snack food aisle. I have a hard time knowing when it’s appropriate to be vulnerable. Should I, for instance, be totally honest on my first post back around here? Should I just dive straight into deep, hard issues? Or should I just show you my favorite instagrams from our trip this summer? Or should I do both? I’ll do both.

 

In June, one week after I took a break from blogging, I went through a miscarriage. I went in for my eight week check up and the doctor could not find the embryo on the ultrasound. It’s likely that the baby just never developed.

 

There is so much I want to say about that process, one that I’m grateful I didn’t feel the need to share publicly at the time. I needed some time to heal before announcing it to the world. And I’m planning to write a lot more about that loss in the weeks and months to come. In many ways I’m still processing the experience and making sense of the grief that followed in the wake of the miscarriage. I planned my break from blogging around the expected first trimester nausea, but God’s gift to me was a whole sea of time to rest and grieve and enjoy my family, without any  writing obligations.

 

This summer revealed to me just how worn out I was after publishing and promoting the book, and . There were a lot of voices in my head telling me that this break was a bad idea. . Most of those voices were the voices that insist I perform, the ones that want me to be a hard worker, do what’s expected of me, buckle down and produce. I’m learning how to talk reason to those voices. They’re loud but they’re beginning to respect me more and more.

 

So, in June, I was sad and sat on the couch watching a lot of Pride & Prejudice and and drinking a lot of . But, I also celebrated my 10th anniversary with the mister by taking a grainy selfie in a mirror. (We’ll celebrate for real at the end of September.)

 

And then I stopped watching Austenland long enough to pack our suitcases and leave chilly, foggy San Francisco for the heat and sunscreen. I affectionately refer to our summer trips as “The Great American Grandparent Tour,” something I’m so grateful we can do as a family living far from all our dearest family members. We started in Texas, where the boys are in heaven because their cousins are older and super cool and their uncles do things like this with them, night after night in my parent’s front yard.

Then we were off with the cousins, aunts and uncles, and my parents to a cabin in New Mexico, where the world looks like this. It was dreamy.

We spent the Fourth of July going on hikes and hunting for snakes, August’s favorite creature du jour.  Thankfully (in my humble opinion) we never found any.

Then it was on to the east coast, where day after day was spent like this: watching the boys swim while I read books in the sunshine. That, my friends, is my favorite way to relax.

We spent time in Maine with some dear friends who we love like family.

And thanks to Wild Kratts (my favorite children’s show on earth) the kids played Animal Rescue everyday. They even had a sign.

There was time with Chris’ parents and siblings. Lots of time in pools. And so much time being loved and taken care of by our family and friends. I was filled up enough that by the time we came back to San Francisco, I was actually able to deal with the white foggy sky in the middle of July. This was my view on my first morning back.

And sometimes in August, the sun actually did shine. Barely. But it did sometimes. And there’s no place like San Francisco for rolling down hills.

We were glad to be home. (By the way, whenever I show pics of my kids in the ocean, just keep in mind that it’s probably 60 degrees outside and that only children who grow up in San Francisco are brave enough to go into the ice cold Pacific when it’s 60 degrees outside. I certainly am not.)

 

Later this week, I’ll be back with the books I read this summer, linking up with (a week and a half late!) for what I was into. So grateful to be back here with you. And I can’t wait to jump back in to sharing life with you around here.

 

Much love,

Micha https://essaysreasy.online



  • Alise

    I’m so sorry for your loss, and so grateful that you had an opportunity to rest and recover.

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, Alise. It’s so lovely to see you here. Your words mean a lot to me.

  • Oh Micha – so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I’m glad you were able to grieve in quiet, and that the break was so precious to you. Please don’t ever worry about leaving this space – we will be hear when you return. Take all the rest you need – whenever you need it.

    (Loved the photos!)

    • michaboyett

      Thanks so much for faithfully reading, Tanya. And always encouraging me. Xo.

  • You have been on my mind and heart all summer, friend. Love you much.

    • michaboyett

      Love you back, LK. Thank you.

  • Micha, I’m so glad to find your words here. I love your fun, awkwardly deep, soulful way of seeing the world. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Grief is hard. Our summer was a wild mix too, and I’m grateful for the rhythms of fall that are just barely starting to surface. So much love to you, friend.

    • michaboyett

      Hi lady. I love that “fun, awkwardly deep, soulful” quote. I need to paste that on my blog header. 🙂 Thank you for the kind words. And, yes, the rhythms of the fall are a sweet renewal.

  • Katie Noah Gibson

    I’m so glad you’re back, Micha. I am so sorry for your loss, and also thankful you had such deep, restorative, fun time with people you love. xo

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, Katie. You are so faithful to be here as soon as I post something. That means so much to me. <3

  • Salome

    Micha, Thank you for sharing yourself so candidly and beautifully. I wish I could give you a hug in regards to the miscarriage. I had an early miscarriage in May and it has been unexpectedly heart-breaking and yet stretched and grown me in other vital ways. I am glad you had the time away you needed and I look forward to hearing about your processing. Best, S

    • michaboyett

      Thanks for sharing that, Salome. I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage as well. it seems to me that the loss is not only unexpected but the kind of grief that shows up is unexpected. And surprising. I feel the same…that it’s really grown and challenged me as well. Thanks so much.

  • jean

    Glad youre writing again! I’m so sorry about your loss. I have had a couple of miscarriages before the twins and it is such a difficult process. Love to your family xo

    • michaboyett

      Thanks so much, Jean. So glad to see you here.

  • carameredith.com

    Love you, friend. And I think you’re I’m back/bravery/Insta storytelling was just right. xo.

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, dear. I like you.

  • Welcome back, Micah. I had just found you when you announced your time off, and am happy you are back. I’m so sorry for your great loss. My mother, who I’d been caring for the last 12 years, died this summer and I learned first hand how grief slams your life into STOP. I’ve keep writing my blog, feeling the voice, urging me to share that aching journey, is from the Lord. (I hope so. It’s about all I’ve had the energy for.) Bless you as you bless us with your precious words.

    • michaboyett

      Hi Jane. Thanks so much for finding my blog and for sharing about your loss this summer. I’m so sorry you lost your mom. I can only imagine that after caring for someone for 12 years, you lose both that person and the “caregiving” piece of your identity as well. Such a loss. Peace to you and healing as you grieve. I’ll look forward to seeing you more around here, Jane.

  • Jeannie

    I’m very happy to see this post from you, but very sorry about your miscarriage. It’s good that you were able to take time to care for yourself and also have some good times with family. Thanks for sharing.

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, Jeannie. It means so much to see you here…

  • Welcome back. So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. So glad you had the time to rest and grieve with people who love you.

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, Dawn!

  • Jessie Breines Burns

    Micha, I’m so glad to have you back, i love love love to read all things Micha. I’m so sorry to hear of your miscarriage, and can very much idenitify as i experienced the VERY same type of miscarriage in May. It has been quite a long process which left time for lots of processing in my head, I’ll be eager to hear your thoughts when you do put them to paper and share them. xo

    • michaboyett

      Jessie! So happy to see you here, lady. Wow, that is so interesting that we both had the same kind of miscarriage so close to each other. It is such a loss, but one that is really hard to put to words, isn’t it? I’ll do my best. Love to you, friend.

  • pastordt

    What a DELIGHT to see your name and sweet face in my Roll-Up tonight! I am so sorry about the loss of your hoped-for little one. That is rough. Each of my kids has lost one between two of their kids and each loss was hard, in its own way. Your pictures look like a wonderful vacation time was had by all – and I’m so glad. Welcome back, Micha. You were missed.

    • michaboyett

      You are so faithful to be here and read, Diana. Thank you so much for the kind words. And for missing me. I missed you too. 🙂

  • Welcome back! I’m so sorry about your loss. I’m grateful though that you had the time and space you needed for the rest of the summer without those fear-voices calling the shots. Also, I’m grateful that you’re blogging again. 🙂

    • michaboyett

      Thank you, Bethany! So grateful to hear from you.

  • Oh Micha, I missed you too.
    It seems like there is always more going on behind the scenes than we realize. I’m so glad you had some space and time to process and grieve your baby. Such a hard thing.
    But thank you for sharing, it means a lot.
    I loved seeing little glimpses of your summer on Facebook and Instagram. Looking forward to getting to read your (more rested) words.
    xo

    • michaboyett

      Thank you so much, my dear. xoxo.